Growing up, I always thought that once I turned 20 the doors of the world would open upon me! While I was naive to think that I would simply coast through my 20s with only a few bumps in the road, I truly thought that these were going to be the best years of my life. The way my parents used to describe being young and in New York City I thought it was a path that I would eventually follow. Both of them had great jobs, had fun, went out with their friends, met one another and eventually got married.
All of my friends in college were excited about the prospect of living in the city together, having a job, and then having fun on the weekends. We would speak about how we would essentially live the dream and we would live it out together
So far….we have not been living the dream.
Our life is unfortunately not like what we wanted to portray to our friends on instagram. Sure there are the occasional drinks after work or the twice a year reunion when almost everyone can get off of work but as long as we can get home early enough for work in the morning. Our conversations have become talking about our clients, patients, grad school classes and endless job searches for those who are still unemployed eight months after graduation. Our student loans and inability to simply rely on our own paycheck has started to become the reason we stay up at night.
Reality has hit us and it has hit us hard…..but all is not lost.
Change is uncomfortable, I remember being a kid and having really terrible growing pains in my legs. I would lay in my bed and just ride out the shooting pains. The result was become almost 5 ’10 and having legs that are a problem while pants shopping. I am happy about this now but I did not think of anything else during the shooting pains other than how awful it was at that moment.
This is exactly how most 20 somethings feel after college. The year after college is full of growing pains and they are sharp and intense. We were hoping for the Carrie Bradshaw job and apartment but what we got was loan payments and minimum wage jobs if any at all. However, we are growing and we are learning more about ourselves and what we are made of each and every day we stare at the clock and groan our way to a job that we swore we would never take.
Our years of college have left us jaded and naive to the sudden rush of reality we were to face once our diploma was handed to us. While jobs are not as plentiful as they once were for recent college graduates, there is a blind faith that keeps us going. We are still working through the murky waters of adulthood and sometimes wondering if it was good idea to graduate college on time (I’m kidding…..sort of) while trying to remember this will one day be worth it.
The best thing and the worst thing about life is that in a moment everything can change. We can go from being at the top of the totem pole to the very bottom and vice versa. One minute we are on the verge of pulling our hair out that we had to move back home and then we land a job after months of searching and it will one day become the job that will become a lifelong passion. We might have some horrible dating experiences that makes us consider convents and possibly take up knitting (which I love) but then meet the love of our life at a diner after getting off the graveyard shift.
Keep your chin up. We will figure this all out…..eventually.