The Harsh Reality Of Your First Year Out Of College

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Growing up, I always thought that once I turned 20 the doors of the world would open upon me! While I was naive to think that I would simply coast through my 20s with only a few bumps in the road, I truly thought that these were going to be the best years of my life. The way my parents used to describe being young and in New York City I thought it was a path that I would eventually follow. Both of them had great jobs, had fun, went out with their friends, met one another and eventually got married.

All of my friends in college were excited about the prospect of living in the city together, having a job, and then having fun on the weekends. We would speak about how we would essentially live the dream and we would live it out together

So far….we have not been living the dream.

Our life is unfortunately not like what we wanted to portray to our friends on instagram. Sure there are the occasional drinks after work or the twice a year reunion when almost everyone can get off of work but as long as we can get home early enough for work in the morning. Our conversations have become talking about our clients, patients, grad school classes and endless job searches for those who are still unemployed eight months after graduation. Our student loans and inability to simply rely on our own paycheck has started to become the reason we stay up at night.

Reality has hit us and it has hit us hard…..but all is not lost.

Change is uncomfortable, I remember being a kid and having really terrible growing pains in my legs. I would lay in my bed and just ride out the shooting pains. The result was become almost 5 ’10 and having legs that are a problem while pants shopping. I am happy about this now but I did not think of anything else during the shooting pains other than how awful it was at that moment.

This is exactly how most 20 somethings feel after college. The year after college is full of growing pains and they are sharp and intense. We were hoping for the Carrie Bradshaw job and apartment but what we got was loan payments and minimum wage jobs if any at all. However, we are growing and we are learning more about ourselves and what we are made of each and every day we stare at the clock and groan our way to a job that we swore we would never take.

Our years of college have left us jaded and naive to the sudden rush of reality we were to face once our diploma was handed to us. While jobs are not as plentiful as they once were for recent college graduates, there is a blind faith that keeps us going. We are still working through the murky waters of adulthood and sometimes wondering if it was good idea to graduate college on time (I’m kidding…..sort of) while trying to remember this will one day be worth it.

The best thing and the worst thing about life is that in a moment everything can change. We can go from being at the top of the totem pole to the very bottom and vice versa. One minute we are on the verge of pulling our hair out that we had to move back home and then we land a job after months of searching and it will one day become the job that will become a lifelong passion. We might have some horrible dating experiences that makes us consider convents and possibly take up knitting (which I love) but then meet the love of our life at a diner after getting off the graveyard shift.

Keep your chin up. We will figure this all out…..eventually.

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About Media Junkie Jungle

Maddy Murcott is a social media maven, reality tv obsessed, makeup junkie and has been a fan of watching the news since the age of 8. She is currently living the life of a northeast transplant in Colorado.

10 comments

  1. I can totally relate! I’m 3 years post graduation and the harsh reality is still setting in. If only we could stay in college forever. It does get easy with each year though…or maybe you just get used to it. I’m still trying to figure that one out. Good read! 🙂

  2. The first year…or 5… after college is honestly completely insane. Your friends are going to grad school, getting married, having kids. Thus begins the post college life competition. When I graduated college in 2008 I was lucky to have a job right away but, everything else was shitty. I went through breakups and had to move home(which was good because my parents supplied me with all the wine I needed). Also, as much as I loved working with kids(I am a former teacher)I was still wondering if I made the right move. I was very unhappy for several years and I didn’t know why. My advice to post grads or anyone stuck in a life funk, keep your spirits up. Make new friends. Explore other interests. Travel when you can. Network, network, network. Use Linkedin more then Twitter when you can. I was in that place too and took time to find something else that I could do. Now 7 years later, my husband and I are becoming co-owners of a nationwide business. Just goes to show you, it will get better!

  3. Shawna Peryea

    The first year…or 5… after college is honestly completely insane. Your friends are going to grad school, getting married, having kids. Thus begins the post college life competition. When I graduated college in 2008 I was lucky to have a job right away but, everything else was shitty. I went through breakups and had to move home(which was good because my parents supplied me with all the wine I needed). Also, as much as I loved working with kids(I am a former teacher)I was still wondering if I made the right move. I was very unhappy for several years and I didn’t know why. My advice to post grads or anyone stuck in a life funk, keep your spirits up. Make new friends. Explore other interests. Travel when you can. Network, network, network. Use Linkedin more then Twitter when you can. I was in that place too and took time to find something else that I could do. Now 7 years later, my husband and I are becoming co-owners of a nationwide business. Just goes to show you, it will get better!

    Shawna at http://themodernmusings.com

  4. I wish I could just make a living going to college every day. I even miss the homework from the last two years when I was taking classes I actually liked. *sigh* Being a grown-up sucks! (not all the time… but still…)

  5. I’m in my final year of college struggling with the workload and deadlines and after reading this I think I’m definitely deluded by what is coming after graduation! Thank you for the much needed reality check! I’ve also nominated you for the ‘very inspiring blogger award.’ Would love if you checked it out.

    Eunice Caroline.
    http://theberryway.blogspot.co.uk/2015/01/nominated-for-very-inspiring-blogger.html

  6. I miss college , I haven’t been for like 10 years lol. xox

    http://www.rainbowsandunicornsblog.co.uk/

  7. Sarah

    Hi there,
    I nominated you for the Leibster Award!
    to accept your nomination click over to my blog and follow the instructions on my latest post! x
    Sarah x

    http://freshcuriosities.blogspot.com.au/

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